{"id":717,"date":"2011-09-19T21:26:30","date_gmt":"2011-09-19T21:26:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/scoresbyfamilylaw.com\/blog\/?p=717"},"modified":"2019-11-23T22:26:42","modified_gmt":"2019-11-24T05:26:42","slug":"if-you-didnt-say-it-you-didnt-do-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/scoresbyfamilylaw.com\/blog\/2011\/09\/19\/if-you-didnt-say-it-you-didnt-do-it\/","title":{"rendered":"If You Didn’t Say it, You Didn’t do it"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Some movies never get old.\u00a0 One of my family’s favorites is The Princess Bride.<\/em> Remember this exchange following Buttercup’s “wedding” to Humperdinck?<\/p>\n

Buttercup:\u00a0 Oh, Westley, will you ever forgive me?<\/p>\n

Westley:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 What hideous sin have you committed lately?<\/p>\n

Buttercup:\u00a0 I got married. I didn’t want to. It all happened so
\nfast.<\/p>\n

Westley:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Never happened.<\/p>\n

Buttercup:\u00a0 What?<\/p>\n

Westley:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Never happened.<\/p>\n

Buttercup:\u00a0 But it did. I was there. This old man said “man and
\nwife”.<\/p>\n

Westley:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Did you say “I do”?<\/p>\n

Buttercup:\u00a0 Uh, no. We sort of skipped that part.<\/p>\n

Westley:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Then you’re not married. If you didn’t say it, you
\ndidn’t do it. Wouldn’t you agree, Your
\nHighness?<\/p>\n

Humperdinck:\u00a0 A technicality that will shortly be remedied. But
\nfirst things first. To the death.<\/p>\n

Westley:\u00a0 No. To the pain.<\/p>\n

I recently received a “divorce decree” issued by our judge following a trial.\u00a0 The decree addressed almost <\/em>all the issues in the case, including child custody, child support, and division of property.\u00a0 What the decree failed to include, however, were words dissolving the parties’ marriage.\u00a0\u00a0 Usually, divorce decrees include language such as, “the parties’ marriage is dissolved, and the parties are restored to the status of single persons.”<\/p>\n

Just as there could not be a valid marriage between Buttercup and Humperdinck without Buttercup’s saying “I do”, a marriage is not dissolved until the judge says the right words.\u00a0 The lack of marriage\u00a0dissolution language in the decree is\u00a0a “technicality

[that must] be remedied.”\u00a0 This isn’t a hard fix though.\u00a0 A simple motion or stipulation\u00a0to amend the decree\u00a0under Rule 84 of the Arizona Rules of Family Law Procedure will do the trick.<\/p>\n

By the way, I realize that the last part of The Princess Bride<\/em> quote I included above (“To the death.”\u00a0 “No, to the pain.”) has nothing to do with this post, but how could I leave it out?\u00a0 It’s hilarious!<\/p>\n

Copyright \u00a9 2011 by Scoresby Family Law \u2013 J. Kyle Scoresby, P.C. All rights reserved.

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